Scene 3: “Responding Nurturingly

“The most wonderful experience in the world is to find a person who is really interested in all of your inner life.” Note: Our inner life is our mind with all its thoughts.

Patti: “There’s a guy named Billie and he’s with a girl named Peggy. I’ll explain later who they are. Billie shares his thoughts. Let’s see how Peggy treats them.”

Billie: “Once when I was in Texas I had the most wonderful steak in the world.”

Peggy: “Really? Tell me about it.”

  • What if I’m not interested in what he/she is saying?

This is what you have to work on: Getting interested in all the little interests of the people in your life. (There are several important statements in this website; this is one of them,)

Billie: “I leased a new Toyota Carrola.”

Peggy: “Awesome. Great choice. Let me check it out.”

Billie: “I just came back from a trip to Paris.”

Peggy: “You did? Tell me all about it. I want to see all your pictures.”

Billie: “Let’s go to the MicMac restaurant for dinner.”

Peggy: “Good choice. That’s just what I was thinking.”

Billie: “I just leased a new apartment.”

Peggy: “Oh I want to see it… every room… including the cellar!”

Billie: “We went to a new restaurant yesterday.”

Peggy: “Did you like it? What did you order.?”

Patti: “What’s Peggy doing here? She is showing interest in and TAKING DELIGHT IN Billie’s thoughts…and ENGAGING with ENTHUSIASM.”

Patti: “I can get enthusiastic over going to a concert. I can be enthusiastic over seeing my niece for the first time. I can be enthsiastic over skiing down a mountain. And…


Patti: “This is called ‘NURTURING’.

Patti: “So when you share one of your thoughts I RESPOND: ‘Awesome, Tell me more.’ When you make a suggestion I go, ‘Perfect. Let’s do it.’ When you’re playing an album I go, ‘One of my favorites.’ “

Gainsborough: “You’ve gotta be kidding. There’s no such people like that in this world. What planet do you live on?”

Joe: “Good question. OK so we’re exaggerating a little here. Jesus exaggerated. But wait till the end and we’ll see.”

Ricky: “Here is a list of ENTHUSIASTIC RESPONSES. You know where they came from? From a German vocabulary book. They’re translations.”

Krista: “We call these enthusiastic responses NURTURING.”

Gainsborough: “Men don’t nurture.”

Dave “You’d be surprised. Did you ever watch a father and his daughter together?”

One of the most wonderful experiences in the world is to find a person who truly DELIGHTS in all your precious thoughts and who RESPONDS to them with ENTHUSIASM.

“A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.” Brendan Behan

Steve: “If this makes you gag with disbelief… have you been in a bar lately… a mixed bar?”

Joe: Closely associated with nurturing is AGREEABLE. “You’re having a light chat with a friend. The friend gives an opinion about something. You don’t agree with it but it’s not important. So you go right along with it, “Yeah, that’s right.” This is called being agreeable. It is one of the virtues. You are the kind of person who is agreeable. Nurturing and agreeable are sort of the same. It is a refreshing kind of person to be. Your grandchildren will come to visit you in your old age.

Patti: “BTW in the above dialogue Billie is Billie Joel and Peggy is his fiancee. He wrote the song “She’s Got a Way About Her.” In it he marvels at the way Peggy responds to him. He can’t quite understand what it is. “Don’t know what it is” he says.

She’s got a way about her
I don’t know what it is
She’s got a way of talkin’, mmh
I don’t know what it is
But it lifts me up when we are walkin’
She’s got a light around her, ooh
And everywhere she goes
A million dreams of love surround her

“Don’t know what it is” he says. But now we know.

Turn to Scene 4: “Introducing Negativity”.